Your Kids Are Not Colourblind: How to Talk to Your Children About Race

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Your Kids Are Not Colourblind: How to Talk to Your Children About Race

Did You Know?

Why It’s Important to Talk With Your Children About Race:

  • Creates a society where all children, regardless of race, feel safe, understood, supported and worthy.
  • Prepares children to live and work together in a diverse world.
  • Helps children to develop a healthy sense of self.
  • Prepares children to know how to properly respond to their peers when they point out differences.
  • Ensures they are receiving accurate information from reliable sources.
  • Allows children to grow into adults that are anti-racist, as well as acknowledge systems of prejudice and work to correct them.

What to Say to Your Kids

It can seem intimidating to talk about race when it’s such an important and emotion-packed topic. If you come from a more privileged background, you may also not feel ‘qualified’. Remember, you don’t need to share someone’s experience to be an ally. By listening openly to the stories and voices of those around you, you will be setting a positive example for your kids and opening the door to conversations about why the topic of race is important.

What you say to your kids will depend on their age. Younger children respond well to conversations based around stories, so reading picture books about race and by Black or Indigenous authors can be a good way to begin. Older children and teenagers are likely to have seen news stories and social media posts about the recent protests, so you can ask them about what they already know, and what questions they have. It can be an opportunity to learn together, by exploring histories of our colonial past, slavery and the civil rights movement.

There are some excellent resources in the list below to help you get started.

Race and mental health are closely aligned. When children feel accepted and welcome they thrive, and having a sense that they can play a role in making the world a fairer place supports the development of empathy and resilience, both important factors in long-term well-being.

Resources:

The Social: How to Talk to Your Kids About Race (Video)
The Conscious Kid: Reading List
Social Justice Books: Guide for Selecting Anti-Bias Children’s Books
Thrive Global: 3 Powerful Ways Parents Can Help Their Children Understand Race Relations
NPR Life Kit: Talking Race With Young Children
USA Today: George Floyd. Ahmaud Arbery. Breonna Taylor. What Do We Tell Our Children?
TEDx Stanford: Is My Skin Brown Because I Drank Chocolate Milk (Video)
The Atlantic: How to Talk to Kids About Race (Video)
CBC News: How to Talk to Kids About Race, and Why You Should Start Now
Parents: Your Age-to-Age Guide to Talking About Race
EmbraceRace: 10 Tips for Teaching and Talking to Kids About Race
Media Smarts: Talking to Your Kids About Racial Stereotypes
Child Mind Institute: Racism and Violence-How to Help Kids Handle the News
CNN: How to Talk to Your Children About Protests and Racism